This is a phrase that I hear way to often. My husband is a very loving man and likes to treat me with respect and love. He is always pulling out my chair when we go to dinner, opening doors for me(and others), giving me time to myself and parenting our son and MANY other things. It amazes me when people praise him for doing these things and turn around and whisper to me “You’ve trained him well”. I ALWAYS reply “He came that way and that is why I married him”
So many times I see and hear women complain about their spouse not appreciating them. If they are a stay at home mom their husbands complain the house is a mess, men complain about “babysitting” their child(that is a whole other subject, you don ‘t babysit you PARENT). They don’t know how or want to help clean the home and many other things. I am so grateful that my husband pitches in with the cleaning, cooking, he washes his own laundry. He even teaches our son by example that there is no such thing as “women’s work” in our home.
The sad thing is people feel like they can’t expect men to do these things. These were qualities that I wanted in a mate and if you didn’t have them then I was on to the next. I didn’t want to waste your time or mine. To me a marriage is a partnership, we are a team and I wanted to make sure to marry someone who was a great team player. My husband is the first to tell me when I feel down on myself that “We are a team, when you are tired I will be there to pull the weight.” I’m excited every morning that I wake up and see this man laying next to me and I know that I made the right choice.
It makes me SO happy to know that this man is a great example for my son and one day(IF my son decides that he wants to get married) he will be a great team player as well, at the very least he will know how to take care of himself by cooking and cleaning.
You have the ability to choose you teammate, never forget that.