I can not believe that it has already been three years since I decided to “big chop” I say that in quotations because I transitioned without even realizing that is what it was called lol. When I found out that I didn’t need to hold on to those said permed edges I decided that I would do a big chop. I love the versatility of wearing my hair in the form that it grows out of my head and also manipulating it to look like so many different hairstyles and curl patterns. I love changing the color of my hair as well. I say all this because there are some in the natural hair community that think just because a person does this to their hair; they aren’t considered “natural” and I say to each their own. I feel just as natural as a person who has NEVER permed their hair or colored it. My hair grows up instead of down and I like to rock curly styles that empathize that.
Still had a bit of perm in my hair and I cut it all off a few months later
One thing I love about having the hair that I do, is that NO ONE is like me. I have unique hair, no curl pattern is exactly the same. The regimen that works for me may not work for you and that is ok. Wearing my hair the way that I do helped me learn to love myself and see that it’s ok to be different and stand out. That doesn’t mean that you are looking for attention it just means that you are comfortable in your own skin.
Having a blonde moment
After I had my son I was looking at easy to simplify my life and I wanted to do something big. I decided to get a tapered cut and I LOVED IT! I knew that I wanted to grown my hair out after I cut it so I would only have it for a short time but i knew that would help me out being a new mom. So here I am at my three year naturalversary and it’s like I’m at my 1 yr because I cut it lol. I had so much fun growing it out and who knows maybe I will cut it again in a few months. I am always looking for growth and change in y life
About four months after my cut. the sides were already twice as long
growing and growing
Hair blown out a few days after my three year naturalversary and a little over a year after my 2nd “big chop”
This past weekend was the 1 year anniversary of Naturals in the Sun and they SHOWED UP AND SHOWED OUT!! I am so glad I drove the 4 hours down to Ft.Lauderdale
Naturals in the sun: left to right – Chanell, Fae love and Marjorie
They had a very special guest attend all the way from Detroit,MI Miss Charyjay. She was WONDERFUL, so personable and easygoing she was very quick to answer any questions you had about natural hair. Just such a down to earth person.
Charyjay introducing herself to the crowd
We were entertained by spoken word, We got to listen to a wonderful panel of beautiful curly girls, as well as hair demonstrations. There were vendors of all kinds and GIVEAWAYS GALORE! so many curly girls walked away with goodies (not including the ones received as we walked into the door) if you were a VIP you got samples from brands such as Entwine, Janes solutions,Mrs jessies, and many more.
Naturals in the sun has meetups throughout the year so def check out their Facebook and their Youtube for up to date info.
I also got to meet some new curly friends shout out to Jin from Love,Loss and Laquer as well as Dearnaural62. It was so nice to mingle and trade hair secrets over all a VERY good day and I look forward to more meetups.
It pays to be VIP :)
I can’t believe that it has been almost a month since I have written a blog post, I have been pretty busy. but there has been an topic on my mind for sometime now and I would like to discuss it. feel free to leave your feedback in the comments section.
Since I have become natural I have noticed a lot of people letting go of the creamy crack which I am sure that you have as well. It’s more than a movement I feel like it’s a way of life and I have seen first hand how your happiness with your own natural hair will effect those around you. When you are happy, it inspres others to be happy and to take that leap into naturalness that they may have had second thought about in the past.
We are giving insperation,tips and encourgament to people we know and a lot of times to people that we don’t know. It’s very moving to see. One area that I wish would catch up is how we deal with our younger genration.
A friend and I were talking and we asked each other : what age did we receive our first perm? She said 7 and I was younger, 5 maybe 4. It made me think, why is this ok? you wouldn’t color a child’s hair that young? so why is it ok to add chemicals in their hair to straighten it?
|You’re going to add WHAT to my hair?
Just as we as adults encourage an educate ourselves how to maintain our natural coils and kinks we need to encourage our young ones to do the same. Now I know that every hair type is diffrent and some may be “harder” to manage. I am here to tell you it gets easier I promise.
The first time detangling everything and twisting it in two strand twist may be hard but afterwards you can wash their hair with the twist in and take them down one at a time and redo until you get the hang of it. This way we teach our kids how to love the hair they are born with and parents are not frustrated with the process of doing it.
I think we need to try and break the cycle, we can’t tell our children that all that matters is whats on the inside and then at such a young age make them think their hair is something to be “taken care off” because it’s too difficult to do. Once we encourage them to embrace what they have naturally I am sure we will have a lot of happy little one.
|Natural Hair, Don’t Care
|HEY my Aunt has Natural hair, I think I can rock mine too!
What is with the fascination that people have about black hair. growing up I can remember my mom telling me before I go out to play or go to a friends sleepover..” DON’T LET ANYONE PLAY WITH YOUR HAIR!” now that I am older I realize all the time it took to get my hair to look a certain way and if no one touched it then it could last a week.
It seems now that I have gone natural I have to live by the same code. PLEASE DON’T TOUCH MY HAIR!!!! now I have to spend the time to do my hair and if it is left untouched then I can rock it for days on end. BUT if people try to see how I got it to curl like it is, or it just looks so soft I have to touch it, then you mess up all the hard work that I have put into making it look so nice and touchable.
Hair touching should be but in the category of someones face! you don’t go around touching peoples face if you think they look nice our their makeup is on point…you would get KNOCKED OUT for getting in that persons personal space. maybe if all the naturals of the world started roundhouse kicking people in the face they would leave us alone.
Of course then we would all be in jail for hurting the fool who touched us. so why don’t we just do this instead. I understand the curiosity and people wanting to know the ends and outs of our hair. Yes it will stay in one place if we move it to that direction, yes our hair is coarse and we need to moisturize it with oils, yes it is considered curly, no we don’t need to wash it everyday. YES we can have the same style for a week but only if NO ONE TOUCHES IT!!
Just think of our hair as a cactus, you wouldn’t walk up to that and rub it with both hands would you? no you wouldn’t. So please don’t ask us anymore if you can touch our hair because our answer will always be…No, You can’t touch this