Be Yourself

I was perusing the internet today and somehow I always seem to stumble across crazy things. I stumbled across an article entitled :Women with natural hair have low self-esteem. Below is a paragraph from the article.

“According to the study by Bountiful Hair, natural hair being viewed as a messy look is causing many women, who wear their hair in that manner, to feel inadequate and less desirable as their counterparts. Those feelings of inadequacy causes women with natural hair to lash out at women with treated or straightened hair, and in turn lowers their self-esteem”

What now? I guess this “Study” questioned 3,000 natural women and 2,500 said that they didn’t feel pretty as a natural women.I weep for them.

What kind of study was this? and how controlled was is? I truly believe that you should do WHATEVER you want to YOUR hair that makes you happy. Who am I to try to tell you that being natural is the only way of life. What I will say is don’t think that just because you watch 1,000 YouTube tutorial that YOUR curls will look the same. Also not all products work for your hair type.

I think many women go into the natural route thinking that they can change their hair texture and turn it into something it’s not. As much as I would love to have Tracee ellis Ross hair

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just look at that beautiful hair

I know that the texture that grows from my scalp is one of a kind. I have learned what works for my hair and what does not. I realize that I will never have the same style as someone else and that is ok. I am comfortable in my skin and being my own person.

To many people join the natural movement and think its easy. umm no! you have to set your hair two -three days before you may get it to look the way you want it to look( I love 2nd and 3rd day hair the best myself) you have to show your hair some TLC. When I say that I can’t do anything because I’m washing my hair I mean it! wash day is a spa day for my hair. I need to show her some love. natural-hair-wash-day

Being natural is not for every one. I repeat..NOT FOR EVERY ONE. I can’t stand people who tell you how you should do your hair, that is one of the reasons that in my hair videos I make sure to tell you these are MY thoughts and that this may not work for everyone. If you like to have your hair fried, dyed and laid to the side then rock it. There is no need for us as women to try to bring down another women just because she isn’t rocking the style WE feel SHE should.

We also need to be aware that only WE can allow someone to make us feel inferior or have low self-esteem. We have to make it our aim to love ourselves even if no one else does. We are our #1 fan. I will say this. You are beautiful no matter your size, hair color, color of your skin etc.  Don’t you forget that, just live your life and be yourself large

 

 

It’s a WRAP

As a natural girl I am always on the lookout for great wraps that I can use for protective styles that are stylish and different. Look nor further than The Wrap life! I have seen a few vloggers and bloggers wear these wraps in their pictures and in videos and I wondered if the would live up to the hype. I purchased two wraps that were in the spring collection.

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Boombastic $21 (left) and Too Blue $18 (right)

Of course I opened them right up and started to play around and style them. What I love about these wraps are the vibrant colors and patterns that they have. These are cotton wraps and so easy to use. If you are wondering how you should style them the wrap life has a few tutorials(Wrap School) on their website to show you a few ways to rock your new wrap

What are you waiting for? Get out there and Wrap :)

(The Wrap life did not provide these wraps, I purchased these myself and the views are all mine)

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Top must have Items for babies

As a new parent you are always asking people what do I REALLY need for this baby. I have made a top ten list (and one extra because I couldn’t live without it) These have really helped me , i dont know what i would have done without these.  Below I will explain why I chose these items and I hope that these help you out as well.

Top items to have during babies first year

 

1.Sakura bloom and Tula baby carriers: I own both of these brands.  These allow you to be HANDS FREE which is a life saver when dealing with a newborn all the way up to a toddler. Baby teething? grab the carrier. Baby clingy? grab the carrier. Going to a place where having a stroller would be a pain? grab the carrier. I have used these two items the most since having my son. I’ve used them everywhere, the beach, store,movie theater(yes we’ve seen a movie with our baby he did very well in his carrier),museums, amusement parks you name it I’ve probably carried him. Sakura bloom weight limit is up to 35lbs and Tula weight limit is up to 45lbs so I will have these until my son is a toddler. Price for Tula are $149 for standard and $169 for toddler(once child can fit into 2T clothes that is the recommended time to switch to a toddler Tula) Sakura bloom prices go from $88-$160 for linen and $180-$200+ for silk. The prices are on the high end of the baby carrier market but you want to invest in a GREAT carrier. It’s important to make sure that it’s ergonomically correct so you don’t change baby developing hip dysplasia. You also want to make sure that its comfortable for both you and baby( I have carried my son in both for extended periods of time, up to 6 hours) These are both also great to breastfeed in when you are on the go.

2. My Breast Friend: Once you get past the name this is an AMAZING product. This has support for your back when you are breastfeeding, it clips around you so you don’t have to worry about it falling off of you, or moving out of the perfect spot. There is a pocket on the front that is quite large to keep some necessities when you are nursing. I had to feed baby in football position for the first few months and using this pillow was a lifesaver. I traveled with it everywhere. They even make one for twins! :)

3. Nose Frida: Now before I had a kid (even right after i had one) I would tell everyone I would NEVER use this product. My tune changed when I had a congested baby thanks to teething. The nose sucker ball(that everyone uses) was just NOT doing it’s job(also have you seen one of those cut open? DISGUSTING) I remembered I had a nose frida and used it. BIG DIFFERENCE, my baby could breathe and it was easy to use. There is a filter so you don’t have to worry about anything and this is very easy to clean so you can use it again.

4. Lansinoh gel nursing pads and nipple cream: EVERYONE SHOULD GET THESE! even if you are not thinking about nursing get the ge; pads. when your milk comes in, that is PAINFUL and these gel pads can be frozen or put in the microwave for hot or cold compress. If you are going to nurse, nipple cream is a must. You can purchase both of these at your local target.

5. Ju Ju Be B.F.F: This is the diaper bag of ALL diaper bags. I can’t say anything bad about this. I went through three bags before settling on this one. it opens in the front so you don’t have to dig through your bag. The inside of the bag is colored so it’s not a black hole, you can see where everything is. There is a “mommy pocket” in the front so you can keep all your essentials. They have very cute prints as well.  This bag can me worn with a messenger strap or as a backpack. perfect for the mom on the go. This is also roomy, I cloth diaper and I have more than enough room. you can check out YouTube for packing videos as well to see how roomy they are.

6. Safety 1st Onboard air 35: Car seats are something every new parent does research on. We decided not to get the convertible seat right away(a lot of them accommodate newborns 6lb and up all the way to booster) I wanted to be able to have the ability to take my son out of the car still in his car seat if her fell asleep. We purchased this car seat and it’s great. It can fit a infant from 4-35lbs and up to 32″ (One of the best I have found for an infant seat) Even though its larger than most infant seats it can still fit in a small car, I own a Nissan Cube and it fit fine. The car seat is very comfortable(Air Protect™, Side Impact Protection, Advanced air cushion system) and my son has never been unhappy in his seat. He is always asleep as soon as the car takes off.

7. Sophie the Giraffe: This is great for little hands, baby has so many options to chew on. Her face is great for when front teeth are coming in and the legs are great to get to the back ones. Sophie has been around for years(since 1961) it’s made of 100% natural rubber and food paint which can fade. This is my sons number one choice in teethers. Believe me when I say that I have bought NUMEROUS ones, I didn’t believe in the hype of a $20 teethers. Well now I do! my son and I are much happier with Sophie in the diaper bag.

8. Coconut Oil : This is a STAPLE. great for diaper rash, cuts,nipple cream, lotion, hair, cooking. you can’t go wrong with coconut oil.

9. Foam Matt play area: I have tile in our apartment so this is a lifesaver for my nerves(well that was up until he could crawl) but even if you have carpet it’s nice to designate a area for baby to play. This particular mat pictured is 36 large pieces. I purchased from toys r us on sale for $14.99 (original price $29.99)

10. Shea Moisture Baby Head  to Toe wash and LotionThis brand is all natural and one of my favorites for myself. Their baby line is calming and my son loves this during bath time as well. You can purchase this at Target. A little goes a long way, I still have over half of the lotion left and JUST bought a new head to toe wash in 9 months.

11. Fisher-Price Kick ‘n Play Piano Gym: This toy goes from 0-18 months. it was great to use when my son was not mobile and he loved to kick the piano and play with  the toys. Now that he is mobile and can sit on his own he still loves to play the piano, you can flip the piano up so that your child can play with it while sitting. you can also detach the piano and it can be taken with you when toddlers want to play on the go :)

Natural Hair Dictionary: Words you should know while on your Journey

So you have decided that you want to become natural. You decided that the best start is to look at blogs, vlogs and forums to get some information on how to take care of the new you. One problem: THEY ARE SPEAKING IN CODE!! What is WNG? HIH?  BC? APL,BSL,NL? and why is everyone using these acronyms like everyone knows them?

Well I also felt that way when I first started my journey and I learned them all on my own but you are in luck. I have put together a list of common terms that are used in the natural community and the definition. so lets get started.

BC – Big Chop :You cut off any relaxer that you may have. even if you transition for months or just chop off your permed hair 1 month after new growth. its still considered a BC

TWA – Tenny Wenny Afro: Your natural hair when it’s very short

Transitioning: The period of time when you have new growth between your last relaxer

Braid-Out: This is a method of styling when you braid all of your hair in sections to create a curl pattern. you will be able to see the pattern when you un-braid your hair and you will see a crimped style.you can separate the strands further to make your hair have more volume.

Twist – Out:This is method of styling when you twist all of your hair in sections to create a curl pattern. You will be able to see the pattern when you un-twist your hair. you can separate the strands further to make your hair have more volume.

Wash and Go (WnG and W&G) : Simply co-wash your hair, add your styler (in sections for more curl definition) and you can let it air dry or use a diffuser (the name is deceiving you can’t literally wash and go you have to take a few steps to ensure your hair is moisturized)

Co-Wash: Using a conditioner to cleanse the hair instead of shampoo (if you use products that cause build up on your scalp you should use a shampoo to cleanse your scalp)

PJ: Product Junkie. When a person has enough products to style an entire salon full of people and yet they continue to buy new products.

JBCO – Jamaican Black Castor Oil

HIH – Hand in hair syndrome. When you HAVE to touch your hair constantly i.e. making sure the voulume is still there, you want to touch it, making sure the part is gone.( The less you have HIH then your curls will last)

Low Manipulation – You want to chose styles that will allow you to leave it alone. over manipulation can cause your hair to stress and not retain growth. Protective styles are a good way to achieve low manipulation for your hair.

Protective Styles – These styles have low manipulation and protects your ends from damage (twists, flat twists, braids, roll tuck and pin) this also allows you to regularly moisturize your hair

Dusting–  trim of 1/4 and inch or less.

CG– Refers to the “Curly Girl” method explained in the book by Lorraine Massey. It is a philosophy for curls that involves, no or low shampoo, cone avoidance, and conditioner washing.  These are just a few of the basic ideas.

CBL– Collar Bone Length. If a strand of hair can be stretched out to reach your collar bone it qualifies as CBL.

BSL– Bra Strap Length. If a strand of hair can be stretched out to reach your bra strap, it qualifies as BSL.

APL– Arm Pit Length. If a strand of hair can be stretched out to reach your armpit it qualifies as APL.

MBL– Mid Back Length. If a strand of hair can be stretched out to reach the middle of your back it qualifies as MBL.

NL – Neck Length. If a strand of hair can be stretched out to reach your armpit it qualifies as NL

2nd, 3rd, 4th, day hair– Describes the amount of time your hair has gone since you last styled it. Hair styled today would be considered 2nd day hair tomorrow etc…

Sealing- Sealing moisture in the hair, specifically the ends. So you would wet your hair, then use your leave in conditioner, then SEAL with an oil and lastly use whatever styling product of your choice.

These are just a FEW of the words that are used in the natural hair community. There are MANY more but I hope that this is a great start for you on your new journey :)