Gabrielle Union’s Struggle with Infertility

October is Pregnancy and Infant loss Awareness month. I myself am 1 in 4 who have lost a baby and it is the worst feeling ever. I have also dealt with Infertility because of my PCOS and it took me over 4 years to have my son. That is why I am so happy that people are speaking up about their own struggles. It helps when you realize you are not alone. Gabrielle Union has a book coming out and in her book she speaks about her struggles to have a child.

She gets very candid. “I have had eight or nine miscarriages,” Union writes in the book. “For three years, my body has been a prisoner of trying to get pregnant — I’ve either been about to go into an IVF cycle, in the middle of an IVF cycle, or coming out of an IVF cycle.”

Let me just say this is why I find the wuestion “When are you going to have a child?” one that is so invasive to ask anyone. You have no idea what a person is coping with. Gabrielle thank you so much for sharing your story and being brave enough to do so. I am so proud that she did. I know how emotional it can be to share your struggle and still long for a child of your own.

So please be loving when it comes to your friends and family who had losses or better yet don’t even ask when and if they want children because at the end of the day, we never know what people are truly going through

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Life Update: Moving, Family and Announcement

It has been some time since I have written on my blog, I have missed you all and I bet you are ordering what has been going on with me. Well here is a Vlog I made recently to explain what has happened to me over the past few months. Hope you all have had an amazing 2016 so far.

Date night: Zoominations

Right now Lowry Park Zoo in Tampa has an exhibit called Zoominations. This is an exhibit of lanterns all over the park. Such an awe to see in person and the pictures just doesn’t do it justice. We love checking out locals things as a family and this was such a fun activity. This is a once in lifetime opportunity, Toronto, London and Beijing are the only other places this exhibit has been held. Groupon has a wonderful deal going on right now for tickets. This exhibit ends June 28th. If you can I would highly suggest you come out and see it.

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Oh the places we will go

I can remember before my son came along how incredibly easy it was when my husband and I would travel when we wanted to leave the house. You take for granted not having to wake up 2-3hours before you have to leave just so you can make it somewhere on time.

But I wouldn’t change it for the world. I am so glad that we hat eight wonderful years of traveling, going out on he town, sleeping in, last-minute trips and date nights alone every week. Even though it takes us a little longer to get places traveling as a family of three has been some of the best times. Being able to witness my son and husband seeing NYC for the first time, experiencing time square and the look of awe in my sons face makes the nights we went to bed early in the city worth it.

Visiting Disney for the first time and the impromptu trips we have taken since then take my breath away. The look of splendor that comes across my sons face as he sees Buzz Lightyear(from a distance, he is not cool with how life-size he is lol) sends a big smile across my face. I feel like a kid again.

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It doesn’t even have to be a getaway or vacation for me to enjoy our time together. the simple act of going to the park or target means a nice afternoon of exploring and hearing you squeal with delight as you discover something new

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I will say that the most difficult venture that we have taken is the one to MommyCon Orlando. You wanted to see your dad and it didn’t matter that mommy waited since October to attend. Some would day I need to teach you to go with my the flow of MY schedule. I am your mother though and I could tell you were uncomfortable. You cried most of the way home and when you saw our street you yelled out “papa here!” When we got home you ran to your father and clung to his side the entire day. Even though I was disappointed in missing mommy con, I was so elated that you love your father that much and that he is here to spend time with you and smother you with love.

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There are so many places that I want to travel with you and I can’t wait to see what journey life will take us on. I am so glad to have you and your father as my traveling buddies. Oh the places we will go…

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Come on mom, where have places to go

 

Addiction

I have been thinking about this word a lot lately. Growing up with an addict as a mother you tend to look at things very differently in life. I promised myself at a young age that I wouldn’t let any substance or thing have such control over my life that I couldn’t function if I didn’t have it.

That is part of the reason I don’t drink coffee everyday. I know that it’s probably a small thing in many people’s eyes. But when your mother goes to jail and misses out on your child hood because she not only sells drugs but is addicted to them, ANY substance that could render you incapacitated until you have it scares me.

Then I came to a harsh reality about myself, I am addicted to social media. I have hidden behind the excuse that it is the gateway to the outside world, The way I connect with people , especially since becoming a SAHM because I miss having adult contact. I am good with it when my son and I are outside of the home. I don’t check my phone when we are driving, I don’t  check it when we are at the park or doing activities. I also am good with not checking my phone when my family and I are having dinner inside the home or out.

But truth be told the phone is the first thing I  grab in the morning and the last thing I look at in the evening. It’s so bad that when my son wakes up before me he gives me my phone before he gives me my glasses! and I need my glasses to see. If a 1 1/2 yr old can see that mom needs her phone that much then it’s time to make a change.

Don’t get me wrong, I LOVE interacting with adults and finding things we have in common. Checking out the latest fashion trends even catching up with old friends. However, all those things will STILL be here if I take a break. It’s been a while since I have had a technology break. It’s good to have one every month but in all honesty it’s been over 6 months(maybe even longer)

I am visiting my family out-of-state next week and what better time than now to take a break from social media. I am not writing this to say that I am better than or that anyone else should do the same. I am writing this so that I can take accountability for my actions and help me realize that I am not going to miss anything. We live in a time where you don’t have to watch things live, you can tape them and see it later. The same can be true about things that go on in social media. I may miss the next blue dress phenomena(I wish I would have missed the original lol) but it will be ok.

I don’t want to become addicted to anything that harms my body physically and I don’t want to depend on something that can’t show me anything back emotionally.

So with that being said I am going to be gone for a little while. I know that you all will be here when I come back. I just need to take this time to “smell the roses” and live distraction free.

Much love to you all

Amber

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I owned every second that this world could give
I saw so many places, the things that I did
With every broken bone, I swear I lived – One Rebublic(I Lived)