October is Pregnancy and Infant loss Awareness month. I myself am 1 in 4 who have lost a baby and it is the worst feeling ever. I have also dealt with Infertility because of my PCOS and it took me over 4 years to have my son. That is why I am so happy that people are speaking up about their own struggles. It helps when you realize you are not alone. Gabrielle Union has a book coming out and in her book she speaks about her struggles to have a child.
She gets very candid. “I have had eight or nine miscarriages,” Union writes in the book. “For three years, my body has been a prisoner of trying to get pregnant — I’ve either been about to go into an IVF cycle, in the middle of an IVF cycle, or coming out of an IVF cycle.”
Let me just say this is why I find the wuestion “When are you going to have a child?” one that is so invasive to ask anyone. You have no idea what a person is coping with. Gabrielle thank you so much for sharing your story and being brave enough to do so. I am so proud that she did. I know how emotional it can be to share your struggle and still long for a child of your own.
So please be loving when it comes to your friends and family who had losses or better yet don’t even ask when and if they want children because at the end of the day, we never know what people are truly going through
The reality of parenthood is an awakening like no other. You can have an appreciation of what it will entail but no one has the knowledge until you are in the trenches of it. The day I found out I was expecting my second child I was in shock. You ask yourself all the normal questions. “Am I ready for this?” and your conclusion is “How hard can one more be?”
Nine months and a pregnancy ridden with hyperemesis gravidarum with a dash of PPD andI realized my perception of parenting a second child was off by lightyears. With the help of my wonderful husband and his support I was able to take that leap into something that scared me to death.
I was able to overcome my fears and not be afraid of my imperfections. Those imperfections are what made me love my children immensely, they made me the mother that they love dearly.
I learned to let go of the picture of perfection I had in my mind. Its so easy to get wrapped up in the social media image of parenthood. I don’t have everything together(like most parents) I realize that what we see posted is a carefully curated magazine of your life. There are more people like me out there who don’t have it all together. Parenthood is different for everyone, it’s not a one size fit all.I realize this now as I have entered into my second year of parenting two. I choose to just keep moving and love my children immensely because at the end of the day that is all we can do.
I have nursed collectively for 3 1/2 years. August is breastfeeding awareness month an I wanted to do something to celebrate the milestones I have achieved in nursing. I have been wanting to do a milk bath photo shoot F-O-R-E-V-E-R. I decided I was going to do one once I hit the 1 year milestone of nursing my youngest.
My son was so excited to help me set up the photo shoot 🙂
He was so excited to help me set the flowers in place and pour the milk into the tub. Now for this shoot I filled the tub up to my liking and used 1 1/2 gallons of whole milk so I could get the color I desired. You could add more milk so that it would look more white or you could use less to get an opaque look. It depends on what you are going for.
I also used greenery to get a little texture into the shots but they ended up sinking so in the future I would probably use plastic greenery and spray them with scotch guard so they don’t sink. Using real flowers you are guaranteed that they will float. If you want to use plastic make sure to use scotch guard. Also a little tip. The mums(big yellow flowers) look amazing but when the kids get a hold of them and shred them, its a BEAST to clean lol.
I don’t have any natural light in my bathroom so I used three LED lights and a diffuser to simulate daytime. One pointed up at the ceiling, second one behind the diffuser and the third was behind me in the shower.
All in all I am so happy with the results I got from my photo shoot. I want to thank my husband for hearing my vision and executing it.
These last two photos mean so much to me. I may not be a size 4 but that belly homed FOUR babies and brought two earthside. I was blessed and able to nourish those two babies and watch them grow(still doing it with my daughter)
I hope these inspire you to do a milkbath shoot of your own, get one done(You could even hire Razmus Photography to do so) or at the very least take more pics with your kids. they are only young once so capture these fleeting moments one picture at a time.
Recently I uploaded a video detailing my thoughts on 23 and me and ancestry dna kits and wouldn’t you know Prime day is today and there are amazing deals on both.
23 and me is being sold for $49 for just the DNA kit and you can purchase the health and dna kit for $99(that is 50% off)
Ancestry dna kits are on sale for $69(original price $99) I think these are a GREAT way to learn about you family history and learn a little more about you and where you come from. If you want to check out which one I would choose check out the video below. I will also have links to where you can purchase these kits at these amazing deals.
Today Shea Moisture rolled out their new commercial under their new slogan #everybodygetslove and received some backlash. They didn’t show anyone with 4a-c hair and people are up in arms about it. While I understand why people are upset at the lack or representation in the commercial I am not one to boycott this brand.
When I first became natural over five years ago I had no idea where to turn to. Pantene was my go to but they only had a line for black women with chemically treated hair and it was so drying. I searched youtube and found out about Shea Moisture and decided to give it a try. I fell in love with it. I love that these products have become inclusive and people with MANY different textures can use this brand. My daughter and I have different textures but we can still use the same brand and that means a lot to me because I know and trust this brand for my hair.
This commercial I feel was just a way for them to try and bring in new clientele that they haven’t reached yet. I cab’t fault them in that. Now if this was the ONLY commercial they they released I would have been like HOLD UP! what about the people who made you who you are as a company. However, when they rolled out their new advertising strategy with #everybodygetslove they made sure that we were represented and beautifully I might add.
This commercial was 7 months ago and because we live in a microwave society sometimes its easy to forget things that happened 2 min ago let alone 7 months ago. We all lead busy lives. I honestly think that this was not a big issue and this touches on the subject of being so quick to turn our backs on black owned businesses. This company is STILL run by a black family and they make sure they cater to the black community. When they choose their ambassadors to the brands they make sure that black people are their representative( My family was chosen as a brand ambassador but believe me this in NO way makes me stand up for them based of just that)
This is a company I believe in and I have used for over 5 years. I didn’t see this much backlash when Pantene made a commercial that was obviously catering to a black audience when in fact the product didn’t start out that way.
I personally will continue to use this brand for myself and for my family
Here is the commercial that started the backlash
Edit to add update: Shea Moisture has issued an apology