You’ve Trained Him Well

This is a phrase that I hear way to often. My husband is a very loving man and likes to treat me with respect and love. He is always pulling out my chair when we go to dinner, opening doors for me(and others), giving me time to myself and parenting our son and MANY other things. It amazes me when people praise him for doing these things and turn around and whisper to me “You’ve trained him well”. I ALWAYS reply “He came that way and that is why I married him”IMG_7743.2015-06-14_002309

So many times I see and hear women complain about their spouse not appreciating them. If they are a stay at home mom their husbands complain the house is a mess, men complain about “babysitting” their child(that is a whole other subject, you don ‘t babysit you PARENT). They don’t know how or want to help clean the home and many other things. I am so grateful that my husband pitches in with the cleaning, cooking, he washes his own laundry. He even teaches our son by example that there is no such thing as “women’s work” in our home.

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The sad thing is people feel like they can’t expect men to do these things. These were qualities that I wanted in a mate and if you didn’t have them then I was on to the next. I didn’t want to waste your time or mine. To me a marriage is a partnership, we are a team and I wanted to make sure to marry someone who was a great team player. My husband is the first to tell me when I feel down on myself that “We are a team, when you are tired I will be there to pull the weight.” I’m excited every morning that I wake up and see this man laying next to me and I know that I made the right choice.

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It makes me SO happy to know that this man is  a great example for my son and one day(IF my son decides that he wants to get married) he will be a great team player as well, at the very least he will know how to take care of himself by cooking and cleaning.

You have the ability to choose you teammate, never forget that.

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ABH Eyeshadow Palette Giveaway

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This is BY FAR my number one go to palette right now. You can create so many looks. I feel that is is a MUST have for anyone who loves makeup. That is why I am giving away one palette to a lucky follower.

The giveaway will begin on 8/2o/15 and go until 9/4/15. **Giveaway is open to both US and International followers**. I will email the winner. To enter, make sure you are subscribed to my YouTube channel and  please comment bellow “entered” I will randomly pick a winner using Rafflecopter.

If you are looking for some inspiration of a fun look. Please check out my Easy Smokey eye tutorial


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Essence Beauty Box

I have always loved the idea of a subscription service for products. I mean you get items delivered right to your door and you can try out samples of different products. I joined a popular makeup subscription service a few months ago and I was so excited because i had seen all the hype behind it.

Well, imagine my disappointment when I received my box and the products i paid for just were not right for my skin type. I am a WOC(woman of color) I have gold undertones, so not ALL makeup will work for me. I felt like it was a waste of my money when I was not able to use most of the products that I had purchased.

I was a little sad. Well, imagine my joy when I found out that Essence is debuting their own beauty box in OCT 2015! I am so excited to try out this subscription box. For only $15 a month I will be able to try products that will work for my skin tone as well as support business owned by POC(Essence has stated that they will feature at least one product a month by a black owned business)

This seriously has made me so excited. I can’t wait until October so I can see what is inside the first box. You can sign up for your own box here

Anastasia Beverly Hills Shadow Couture Palette

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photo courtesy of Sephora

This palette is a limited edition and I have to say HANDS DOWN this is my FAVORITE palette. Its perfect for everyday looks as well as special occasions. here are two of my favorite looks that I have created. Stay tuned. I will have a tutorial for one of these looks later this week as well as a giveaway :)

 

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World Breastfeeding Week 2015

I feel so thankful that this week will mark 23 months of my breastfeeding relationship with my son.

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If you would have told me when my son was born I would be doing it this long I would have called you crazy. I had gallbladder attacks beginning at 37 weeks and couldn’t have surgery until after baby was born. I had horrible attacks that my husband had to hold the trash can for me so I could feed my son. I was sick and learning to nurse a newborn, it was ROUGH.  I couldn’t get more than 2 oz out each time I pumped and I knew my surgery to remove my gallbladder was coming up. I  didn’t have enough milk stored up and I found out I wouldn’t be able to feed my son for at least two days after surgery thanks to the pain meds that were to be given to me during surgery.

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milk coma at 16 weeks

Five weeks after my precious son was born I was scheduled for surgery at 10am. I couldn’t eat or drink for 12 hours before surgery(which to a breastfeeding mother is pure torture.) my surgery didn’t happen until 4:30 in the afternoon. I fed my son who was going through cluster feeding all the way up until surgery time because I knew I wouldn’t be able to.

My anesthesiologist came in and saw my son, he mentioned  how cute he was. Through conversing we found out his wife just had a baby the same day. We then found out we both had the same doctor and gave birth at same hospital. He was about to leave for the day I was his last patient and he told me that he knows how difficult it can be breastfeeding. He told me he would leave precise instructions on what to give me so I would be able to breastfeed right after surgery. That was an answer to my prayer. Surgery went great and I was able to nurse my son when I got home(I did have enough milk pumped for at least two bottles so that was great)

Fast forward and the more I read about the benefits of breastfeeding pass the age of one I became determined to nurse until my son naturally weans. That can be anywhere between the age of 2-7-yrs.

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breastfeeding on top of the rock in NYC

And here I am almost two years later. I have learned so so much! This post isn’t to bash anyone that supplements part time or full time with formula. We as mothers do what we have to do. There is no problem when you’re in public and you feed you child from a bottle. That is more acceptable in our society.

Many may ask Why do we need a breastfeeding week? I see it everywhere now, so many people are ok with posting pics of it in social media. Well the truth is , in the U.S. The average age that women wean their child is 3 months(coincidence that the time frame coincides with the U.S. Maternity leave?  that is a whole other subject for a different day) for the rest of the world the average age of weaning is four years.

There is also the stigma that comes with nursing your child after one. Many feel if a child can ask for it they are too old. I’m sorry but how does your child ask for food? I know my son quickly will ask for a bapple(apple) as clear as he would ask for “milk milk”.  So should we stop giving our children snacks or dinner because they ask for? NO that would be ludicrious. Many mothers like the fact that their children can ask for milk, that way they know exactly what they want. It;s also a great tantrum stopper for those terrible twos.

The heath benefits alone are great.My son has only been sick three times and he was born during flu season, we’ve traveled by plane three time and he goes to a gymnastics class weekly and the library. I’m thankful that my breastmilk contains the antibiotics needed to help develop my sons immune system and helps shorten his colds IF he does get sick.

The fact is that when it comes to extended breastfeeding many women are shamed. Don’t believe me just look at the comment section under anything that features a mother breastfeeding a toddler, look at the many random post on social media from people shamming mothers for nursing in public uncovered.

This week is needed to encourage mothers to keep going, to encourage those on the fence about breastfeeding. This week helps them see they aren’t alone.

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