A letter to my son

 

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The love that was placed into my heart the day you came into my life was something I had been waiting for since I was a young girl.

I always knew I wanted to marry my best friend and with the love we had for each other we would become parents one day

I didn’t know that we would have to wait eight years before this special love would unfold

Every day I watch you grow I am in awe of the way you look at the world, such innocence.

The innocence you have, I wish I could bottle up and keep forever.

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I know that as you grow you will not only be molded by the things I teach you

But you will be shaped but the things you see, hear, and sadly even the things I will try my hardest to shield you from

I can’t keep you a child forever

Those small hands exploring the world, the inquisitive oooooooh you say when you hear a new sound or word.

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I must do my best to mold you as gently as a potter does with clay.  Give you everything you will need to make it through each and every day

I make it my aim to be diligent in teaching you the ways of life. I’ve realized that in my imperfect moments there is also lessons to be taught

When I mess up you can learn by my mistakes and even if you don’t. I’ll be here as your shelter and loving place.

I’ll be here when the pain and grief I can no longer shield you from.

I’m you mother, your beacon of comfort when this world shows you its true self.

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Product Review: Dark and Lovely Easy Twist Gel N Butter

IMG_1410Dark and Lovely introduces a new line for naturals in 2013 and I have used a few of their products. Some work for my hair and others have not. I recently started my subscription with curlBOX again. In the box was six full size products and a few of them were brand new. This Anti-shrinkage Easy twist Gel N’Butter from Dark and Lovely was one of them.

I am always up to try a new product. This one intrigued me because as a lot of naturals know you need a cream or butter to moisturize and you need a gel to give it some type of hold. Well, this is two products in one. No need to make a cocktail to twist your hair. The product has a creamy constancy and isn’t sticky even though it has a slight hold to it.

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SRP: $9.99 to find out where you can purchase visit darkandlovely.com/Au-Naturale

I used the product on freely washed and conditioned hair while it was still wet. I let it dry over night and I LOVED the results. My curls were defined, soft and not crunchy but had great hold.This is   exactly what I need. When you have a great definition foundation you can be sure that your 2nd and 3rd day twist will look great as well.

I would recommend at least trying this product. It may work for you it may not but no harm in experimenting with new products. Here are my results after I took down my twist

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Don’t try to rain on my parade

I have been looking forward to my baby free girls night for WEEKS so of course since we will be spending some time outside I looked at the weather forecast for the day. The only day that it is supposed to rain is on Saturday. I think to myself well maybe it will be wrong. It was not wrong(for once weather man you are correct)

The good news it that the night is still going to go on as planned and the rain should subside after our dinner and we can still go to an amazing place downtown and have our drinks on the rooftop. The bad news is…NONE I am getting out the house with my girls and I have the prefect outfit :)

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IMG_1366Pants: NYDJ Jeans // Shirt: Asos// Shoes and Purse: Just Fab// Necklace and Rings:H&M

I fell in love with these jeans when Gabi Fresh wrote about them last September and I had to get them. Being a plus size girl you always are on the hunt of for great jeans. Well, these did not disappoint. They have just the right amount of stretch and are so comfortable. These are now a staple piece in my closet.

Since it’s a girls night I also decided that I would rock some metallic tattoos. I love bracelets but I have surprisingly small wrist so they always fall off. With these tattoos I can have the illusion that I am wearing jewelry and I don’t have to worry about losing anything.

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DIY : Fruit Roll Ups

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I try to limit my sons sugar intake. It’s because as children, his father and I both did not take well to sugar we were CRAZY lol. We both were very hyperactive after eating sugar, my husband was actually sensitive to anything with red food dye.

We don’t ban sugar we just limit the intake. My son has had cookies and a sip of sprite once or twice but I am always on the look out for snacks that we can make at home that are made from real food and not packaged.

I discovered a great recipe that I wanted to try and it turned out GREAT. I wanted to share with you

Ingredients :

2- 3 cups fruit of your choice

1 Tbsp of Honey(or sweetener or your choice i.e maple or agave necture

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Wash all fruit (cut off stems, seed etc)  place all ingredients in blender and mix until smooth.

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Pour ingrédients on baking sheet lined with Parchment paper. Using a spatula, spread across backing sheet as even as possible. Fill in thin spots with fruit mix. I pre heated the oven to 225 degrees but depending on the fruit you use you may have to bring temp down lower or higher.

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Bake anywhere from 2-3 hours. Just keep an eye on it. You know its done when it does not stick to your finger when you check it. take out of oven, let cool down. Once cool you can cut it intro strips. There you have it DIY Fruit Roll Ups, even better than the ones you buy pre made.

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A Day in the Life

As a Stay at home mom that lives in Florida, many people seem to think I spend my days hanging around the beach or pool, going to Disney or other amusement parks and sipping away on a Mai Tai all day. As fun as that sounds it isn’t me at all. Each day brings its own struggles and joys and I like taking life one day at a time. No two days are the same in my life. One day I may be at an amusement park, another I could be at home all day.

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To be honest I am not nearly as scheduled as I thought I would be as a mom. I really thought I would have a schedule for everything because that is how I was before having a child. I knew exactly where I was going to be and what time I would be there. Planning with a child is difficult because depending on their mood you may or may not do everything you had planned for the day. Some days I have everything together and Xander and I are dressed and out the door on a new adventure. Other days we have pajama day and we watch Disney movies and build forts.

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Going on a walk around the neighborhood is one of our favorite things to do each day. I like to point out the flowers and trees, while Xander is yelling beep beep for every car that passes. I try to make it a point to have a walk each day. These walks are something that we both look forward to,It gets us out the house, it’s a teaching moment and it calms me down after I have visited the grocery store for the 5th time this week because I forgot something on my list. This is almost a daily ritual of mine. I am so thankful that he usually goes with the flow when I have to make those short trips to grab the ingredients I need for dinner that evening.

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Cooking is a love of mine, I make sure to have dinner on the table for my husband by 7 each day. That is one ritual that I would say is scheduled in my home. Eating together as a family is a huge deal to me. Turn off the TV and the radio and sit down at the table and discuss the highs and lows of your day. That is something that my grandmother did with her family, my mother did with us and something I will continue to do with my family. This is the most important time of the day to me because it means my husband can sit down and have heart to heart talks with my son and I.He knows that around 6:00pm its time for us to start making dinner for dad. He loves being my little helper.

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Our son knows that when dad gets home to walk right over to his  high chair to eat. He knows when all the plates are cleared he needs to announce “MY BATH” because that is HIS time to spend with dad. I love to sneak in and hear the two of them playing, laughing and discussing algorithms and programming(my husband is determined to teach our son programming)This small ritual is something I cherish and love look in on, to see your son and husband bonding is a priceless gift that I am so appreciative of. Some days dinner may be takeout that my husband brings home because I’ve had a rough day but sitting at the table as a family is something we both insist on. It strengthens us as a couple and a family and we all look forward to those special moments at the end of our day.

The bittersweet reality of a day is that once it ends you can never get it back but if you had a bad day, there is joy in knowing a fresh day will start again soon. So what if I wasn’t able to have dinner done on time, that I didn’t get out of my pajamas all day, that I have cleaned up my living room twenty times and folded that laundry more times than I can count. To quote one of my favorite movies “After all, tomorrow is another day”(I am giving you the BIGGEST high five through the screen if you know what movie I am referencing) I remind myself on hectic days that I am not alone and there are mothers who are doing the same thing.

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No matter what we accomplish in the day, we shouldn’t put ourselves down. We can always feel great knowing that we did our best that day and we met the needs of our child. That’s what is important at the end of each day.