PinkBlush Maternity Lookbook + GIveaway

When you are expecting the one thing you need is maternity wear. It so hard to find cute, trendy, affordable clothes to dress your bump. Well look no further than PinkBlush Maternity  They have some of the best maternity clothing. They also carry women’s wear so even if you are not expecting you can still check out the clothing.  The company was gracious enough to send me three outfits It was very hard for me to narrow down which three outfits I wanted.

The company not only carries clothing but accessories(shoes, jewelry, bags etc) they also carry things for the baby as well. I fell in love with some of the accessories and purchased them myself.

 

Look #1: Coral Crochet top dress// Necklace: Teal stone Pendent

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Look #2 Pink Aqua Damask Wrap dress//Necklace: Pink Floral Necklace

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Look#3: Peach Open lace overlay bell sleeve //Necklace:Teal stone Pendent// Wallet: Brown faux leather fringe 

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I had such a blast putting these looks together. This is such a great maternity boutique and they have great maternity looks. Pink Blush Maternity also is giving away a $75 gift card to ONE of my lucky subscribers. Check out my video lookbook here to see how you can enter.

Lil Kim is not the problem there is an even bigger one.

So over the weekend Lil Kim posted a pic to her IG and people went IN on her and he new looks. Now while you can search and see PLENTY of people calling her out, I am not one of those people.I honestly believe there is an even bigger issue here then her altering her looks.(which she seems to enjoy and more power to here) Screen Shot 2016-04-25 at 2.09.33 PM

What I started to wonder was WHAT made her think that she needed to look like this to make herself feel beautiful? She herself has said she’s been cheated on, been told she isn’t beautiful and the men that left her went to someone with that European beauty. This made her think she was not good enough or beautiful enough the way she was.  This is one of the reasons I always say representation REALLY matters. We have to stop telling our beautiful black women that they are “cute for a dark skin girl” or put our light skin black women on a pedestal and make them feel as though they are “BETTER” than others because of their skin color.

The truth is that this is a HUGE problem in the world not only in the black community but everywhere.You can really see how deep systematic racism really is.  People have this assumption that lighter is better when its really our differences that make the world a beautiful place.

I’m not going to sit here and make fun of Lil Kim, I will say I was shocked when I saw this pic but like I said, it runs deeper than just a pic of someone who used plastic surgery and extensions to make themselves feel better. It’s about how society tries to push European standards as the beauty norm, oh they want FEATURES from women of color but just don’t want anything to do with ACTUAL women of color.

So instead of going to her IG page and trying to bring her down by telling her she isn’t beautiful or you miss the old kim, start by loving yourself, get therapy if needed for any deep issues you may have and treat others with kindness. Thats just my two cents on the matter

Maternity In the city – OOTD

I am finally at the halfway point! 20 weeks. This pregnancy has been full of ups and downs but I am so thankful to have made it this far. I haven’t been feeling well but I wanted to go out and celebrate this milestone that we have achieved, My husband and I decided that we would have a toddler free date night in our old stomping grounds.

We lived in Downtown St. Pete for five years and it holds many memories for us. So we visited one of out favorite restaurants and of course I needed a little after dinner dessert from one of my favorite gelato places. It was such a beautiful evening full of sun, laughs, warm weather and people watching( a few of my favorite things)

Lately I have’t been getting all dolled up so it was nice to put on my makeup and a cute dress and be “wined” and dined.

 

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For my makeup I decided to go with that everyday look. Foundation:Makeup foever Ultra HD//Eyeshadow: Naked Palette// Blush: Becca Blushed Copper//Lips: Lolita from Kat Von D

My dress is not a maternity dress but it is so comfy I purchased it from Amazon and I also purchased my necklace from Amazon as well.

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                                    Casual Comfort, exactly what a pregnant gal needs

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                       When your husband is your photographer and he just makes you laugh

 

We had such a fun night and can’t wait to meet our baby

Life Update: Moving, Family and Announcement

It has been some time since I have written on my blog, I have missed you all and I bet you are ordering what has been going on with me. Well here is a Vlog I made recently to explain what has happened to me over the past few months. Hope you all have had an amazing 2016 so far.

Sexual Abuse & Victim Blaming

Now I know I usually keep is “light” on my blog but this is something near and dear to me and I’m seeing too much of it lately on social media. By now everyone has heard about the complaints that have come up against Bill Cosby, at least fifty women have come forth with the “alleged” sexual abuse that he has committed against them. I have seen it all, pulling the race card even digging into these women’s past to try and “prove” they aren’t trustworthy. All this equates to VICTIM BLAMING!!! I don’t care what a women’s background is, what she wears etc if she is stating that someone sexually assaulted her we need to believe her(this also goes for males too, 1 in 71 are sexually abused)
“But what if they are lying?”
The FACTS don’t back up that logic:

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Statistical studies indicate false reports make up TWO PERCENT OR LESS of the reported cases of sexual assault. This figure is approximately the same for other types of crimes. Only one out of 10 rapes are actually reported.  Sexual Assault by someone the victim knows are the least likely to be reported.(info from Roger Williams University)

Two percent or less! So that myth just goes right out the window. Many abusers attack those who look “weak” ones that  people wouldn’t believe because of their past and obviously it is working because I’ve seen so many sexual abuse victims drug through the mud and back.
Let’s talk about the race card. “People are only picking on Bill Cosby because he’s black”
nope nope nope! People are picking on Bill Cosby because he’s a SEXUAL ABUSER. People need to disconnect Dr. Huxtable from Bill Cosby. Dr. Huxtable may be the father of the year but he is FICTION. The real man behind him has already admitted to drugging a woman to have sexual relations with her.
People also try to throw in Stephen Collins(the dad from 7th heaven) and how he sexually abused children and his show is not canceled. And no one speaks about him. Well, first let me say this, Victims of sexual abuse have their identity protected. (That’s what was so shocking about the whole Duggar situation, those poor victims had to relive all that pain because someone leaked their names)
Stephen Collins has said that he was in a relationship with ONE underage girl. I’m not condoning that at all!! He is a GROWN man and should be ashamed but you know who he sound like…. A MR. R. Kelly who was married to a 15 yr old Aaliyah at one point and “allegedly” abused a different 15 yr old later ON FILM. But not only do folks continue to buy his music they gave this man a STANDING OVATION at an awards show….but PLEASE let’s continue to play the race card.
Now some may ask themselves why these  50 women(or any victim for that matter) would come forward after the statute of limitations have passed. I’ll speak about a personal experience for this one.
When you’re a victim you usually are abused by someone who holds power of you, you’re scared into silence. You’re worried how people will judge you(did you “dress like you wanted it” did you fight back, what does you’re character say about you Etc) it take some people a LONG time to work through what has happened to them and when you say it out loud it frees you from the grip that your abuser had over you. Once its out in the open it’s no longer a secret and you can truly begin to heal. I spoke out about abuse that I endured and that allowed a family member of mine to open up as well and we were both able to start the healing process we needed.
When you speak about it, its therapeutic sometimes you find that others have been through this horrific process and it’s comforting to know you’re not alone and someone else can relate to you.
When people come forward and it’s the SAME person that has done it to numerous people, it’s healing for the victims not for us! It lets them know they were not alone and nothing that THEY DID caused it to happen.
When a victim comes forward(voluntarily or otherwise) it’s OUR job to side with the victim NOT the attacker. We don’t need to try to pull a race card, dig up torrid details about the victim to try to discredit them. We need to support them. What if it happened to your mother;sister,grandmother(I speak it women but it could also happen to the men on your family as well)
When you post articles on social media that blame victims you’re sending a message to those in your inner circle who MAY be dealing with abuse that they have one less person to talk to because fear of judgment.
It’s 2016 it’s time to STOP blaming victims and really listen to them.